I'm in a healthy relationship but...⠀
I hear this sentence a lot from the sensitives I work with. Sensitives who partner with people that are NOT highly sensitive. Is this you too?⠀⠀
Sensitives who partner with less sensitive people often feel:⠀
Deeply misunderstood.⠀
A limit to their emotional intimacy.⠀
And like being in sync is a struggle.⠀
There are a lot of complex reasons that we partner with who we partner with. This includes:
Our family history. If we’re in a loving relationship, perhaps the best in our partner reminds us of the best of our caretakers, important figures in our life, or role models.
Karma. This one is real. I’ve seen a lot of partners pair because they have past life histories together and they continue to come back together lifetime after lifetime. Sometimes as partners, sometimes as close friends. But there is a sense that for some of us, we’re journeying with certain souls in our lives over many lifetimes.
Life lessons. This is often interconnected with our family history or karma. But it doesn’t have to be. I believe each soul comes into this lifetime with a desire to work through certain challenges and learn specific lessons. When we partner in a healthy relationship, this dynamic inevitably sparks some of those lessons. Without this awareness, these moments of spark can create deep frustration. But with the awareness that the two of you have entered into a contract to empower each other to grow and learn, the spark becomes an opportunity. Even if sometimes uncomfortable.
In other words, who we create a healthy partnership with isn’t an accident.
What if partnering with a less sensitive person is precisely what your soul ordered during this phase of your life, or lifetime?
I’m partnered with a less sensitive person myself and I have found the learning process together over time quite grounding and also challenging at times. Both my husband and I have had to learn what feels natural to me as a highly sensitive person is often hard for him and visa versa. ⠀This means it’s been a lot of self and mutual education along the way.
This week on my podcast Tune In with Marci I share my best tips and advice for highly sensitive people partnering with less sensitive people. I answer a listener’s question and explore:
The soul and human level reasons why we partner with who we partner with.
Why who we create a healthy relationship with isn’t an accident.
Some conversations you can have with your partner to feel more in sync.
And why increasing your self-awareness about your sensitivity is the key to everything.